I’ve done a series of blog posts with random facts about myself, because I really like to give my followers and readers an unfiltered glimpse into who I am and what I’m about. While those were fun to write, I wanted to shift the narrative and give you a chance to ask me things that you’ve been dying to know.
If you’ve been following along since the beginning, you know that I’m an open book. I’ve always been that way. Of course, there are some things that I like to keep private. But for the most part, if you ask, I’m answering in full detail. So, here we go.
Favorite facial place in San Francisco Bay Area? To be completely transparent, my very first facial (ever) was in January of this year. I keep it up, and go every five to six weeks now, but I’ve only ever been to Nirvana Face & Body in Modesto, California (which is in the valley). I love Nirvana, and everything that they stand behind, so I’ll likely never venture to a Bay Area salon. That’s not to say that there aren’t any great estheticians in the San Francisco (or South Bay) area, I’m positive there are, but I don’t have any experience with them!
Do you have any tips on getting started working remote? Let me preface by saying that this isn’t for everyone. I have a 9-5 job in which I’ve done it all— I’ve been in the office full-time M-F, I’ve been fully remote, and now I’m about 70% remote (I drive in to the office 1-2 days a week). I am lucky that my job has been extremely flexible, and gave me this option without me really having to ask. Having a good working relationship with your boss is key, because 1) they have to trust you’re being efficient and actually working, 2) you’ll likely be in constant contact with them throughout the day via chat or phone.
While it seems like an ideal situation, you have to be very disciplined. When I first started working remote I would spend the morning working from bed, and the afternoon using the coffee table and couch as my work station. This didn’t work.
My main suggestions would be; 1) get a desk, this makes it easier to buckle down and be productive, 2) make a daily to-do list to ensure you’re on top of your deadlines, 3) eliminate distractions (i.e. no TV, laundry, visitors, etc.)
Do you have any advice on getting started as a lifestyle blogger? My number one tip: just do it. Don’t worry about whether or not you’ll be successful, don’t think about what other people will think, and most importantly don’t compare yourself to others who have been in the space for years. If writing and creating content is something you’re passionate about, take the plunge, be true to yourself, find your niche and the rest will follow.
Where are your top 3 favorite places to shop? Revolve, Free People, Planet Blue.
How do you edit your photos? I get this question a lot. My feed has gone through a lot of changes in the past two years as I’ve tested different editing apps, filters and presets. Conclusion? I live for Lightroom (it can be a beast to learn, but is so worth it if you’re interested in photography). Right now I use a Tezza preset as a starting point and make my own adjustments based on my photo and mood.
What do you shoot on? I was hesitant to answer this question, because I’m not 100% sold on my camera. It’s an excellent entry-level, affordable option if you’re new to photography, but it’s not the best camera on the market. I typically work with local photographers for blog photos, but when I’m taking my own pictures for the ‘gram it’s on an iPhone or my Canon Rebel T6 with a 50mm lens.
Hair care routine? You guys, my hair never used to grow until recently. I spend so much time in the chlorine, and I bleach my hair, which is a deadly combination (literally, RIP hair). On top of that, I never used to cut my hair unless I really had to which caused a lot of breakage. It wasn’t good.
I think things really started to change when I surrendered to trimming my hair every eight weeks, using a hair serum (Remilia Hair Cosmocap) in addition to my leave-in conditioner (It’s a 10), and incorporating a protein hair strengthening treatment into my shower routine. I swear by Redken’s Extreme CAT rinse-off protein reconstructing hair treatment spray. Google it.
Full disclosure: I try to only wash my hair once a week, and I think that helps.
Favorite places to visit in California? Wow, this is hard. I’m a California girl born and bred, and it would take a lot to get me to move out of state. I love it here. Some of my all-time favorite places are Big Sur, Palm Springs, Carmel and Corona Del Mar.
Do you have a lot of clothes that you keep for a long time or do you change up your closet often? I have always been a shopaholic (serious, ask anyone) and really weird about re-wearing the same thing multiple times. Obviously, as a blogger, I am constantly getting new clothes and keeping things fresh. Because of this, I recycle clothing a lot to make room for new pieces.
I am the opposite of a clothes hoarder. My general rule of thumb is that if you have touched it, or considered wearing it, in 6-12 months, get rid of it.
Tips for managing blog, work, social life, etc.? Because I have a 9-5, that is my priority Monday through Friday. Between my career, and staying active (working out), I don’t have a ton of time for my blog (or friends) during the week. That being said, it’s easiest for me to write first thing in the morning with my coffee. It’s weird, I know. Some days I’ll wake up at 6am and spend an hour writing a blog post before I shift gears and start my real job at 7am, and others I’ll draft something up at 9pm after two glasses of wine (and edit sober). This goes for the weekends, too. I will usually wake up on a Saturday or Sunday, write a blog or two, go work out and then start my day.
When I first started blogging, I would cancel on plans with my girlfriends because I wanted to write or be well-rested for a shoot the next day, and I definitely wouldn’t be caught dead eating a meal until all my looks were shot (psychotic). Now, I fit it in where I can— whether that’s on a Tuesday after work or on a Sunday morning before my friends are awake— and make it less of an ordeal. At the end of the day, it’s a hobby, and my career, personal relationships and well-being need to come first.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned in relationships? This question is too good.
If you know me, you know that I’m a long term relationship girl. Most of my relationships have been at least three years long, and each relationship has come with its own set of obstacles, highs, lows, and lessons.
I think the biggest thing I’ve learned over time is that while compromise is important, you can’t compromise yourself and what you believe in for the sake of some else’s happiness. Without going in to too much detail, my last relationship had been over for a while (in my mind) and my gut was telling me to end it but my heart couldn’t stand the thought of hurting this person. At the end of the day, I compromised a lot of myself, and my happiness, to avoid the inevitable. I tried to convince myself that it was right, and that it was moving forward, when I knew it wasn’t.
My advice here is to trust your gut (always). And make sure your partner is building you up and encouraging you to be a better person, instead of dragging you down and dulling your sparkle.