I’ve never been big on Valentine’s Day. My boyfriend and I, we don’t do the fancy dinners and cheesy cards. Instead, we do cheesy pizza and a 12-pack of beer. It’s been this way for the past three years, and this year won’t be any different.
He’s lucky, I’m a cheap date. This is partially because I think Valentine’s Day is bogus, but mostly because I would rather eat Taco Bell than an overpriced, mediocre meal. And that goes for any day of the year, not just February 14.
I don’t need a reminder from Cupid (I mean, Hallmark) to send a couple of heart emojis to my man, eat my body-weight in chocolate and wear something sexy. I like to do those things year around, whenever my little heart desires. Let me live.
With that said, I am a generally needy human being. Morgan does an incredible job of expressing how much he cares about me on a daily basis— whether he’s planning for our future, bringing me nachos, buying me flowers anytime we walk passed a bouquet, or simply telling me he loves me. So I certainly don’t feel like I am getting gypped by opting out of the holiday.
I am no love expert, and God knows we’ve had our fair share of battles (cue Pat Benatar), but in the spirit of Cupid I’m sharing 8 ways to live out Valentine’s Day every single day;
1) Go on dates. Before we moved in together, Friday night was our night. It was a fun way to kick off the weekend, and it was something to look forward to during the weeks. Moving in together altered our routine, but we still make a point to have date nights here and there.
2) Tell them “I love you” everyday, even when you’re angry. I’m stubborn, and have a hard time letting things go, but Morgan is so good at apologizing and making things right between us after a fight. I appreciate this so much more than he’ll ever know.
3) Date your best friend. Your partner should be just that, your partner. I am firm believer that you should be equal parts lovers and friends.
4) Communication is key. Don’t push disagreements under the rug, just for them to resurface three months down the road. Communicate well, and do it often.
5) Don’t let yourself go, just because you’re comfortable. I’m still working on this one. When we moved in together, and I started working from home soon after, I had a lot less motivation to get ready every morning. And although Morgan claims I’m prettier without it, I try to put on a real outfit and face of makeup as much as possible. Ya know, to remind him why he’s so lucky.
6) Focus on their strengths, not their flaws. Sometimes when I’m grumpy, I can feel myself starting to focus on the negatives— mine, his and ours as a whole. It is so important in a relationship to focus on the good, rather than the bad. When you’re mad, remind yourself why you fell in love with them in the first place.
7) Compliment them. I am a confident gal, and often times compliments make me feel more uncomfortable than they are flattering. Nonetheless, Morgan always vocalizes when he thinks I look good. I am forever thankful for that.
8) Don’t strive for perfection, strive for happy. We’re far from perfect, but that’s okay. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there is someone who’s perfect for you. Someone who compliments your personality and supports your dreams. As soon as you can realize this, you’ll find your happy.